One of the most common questions I was asked during my time as a university lecturer was, “How do I find my passion?”
My response to that question was the same every semester. And that was, “You flirt.” The students’ quizzical expressions to my response always made me chuckle—it never failed. Here’s the premise behind my response.
People, both young and old, often ask the question, “How do I find my passion” based on the following mindset. First, they do not know and are uncertain of how to get started or where to begin. Secondly, they made an attempt to find their passion, but did not find any fulfillment.
My response to both groups is to flirt, i.e., to experiment with different ideas until you find the idea that aligns with your person—one that brings you total and complete satisfaction. On the journey to discovering your passion, it is important not to get bogged down by focusing on one idea. It is just as important not to become enamored by the first thing you try.
You cannot make a genuine claim that spaghetti and meatballs is your favorite meal if you have not tasted other types of foods. It is really only after you have tried a wide variety of dishes that you can determine what food genuinely appeals to your palate. Similarly, it is difficult to assess whether an idea is truly your passion if that is the only idea you have pursued.
Every day can be an amazing day if you flirt with magical thoughts. –Pragalbha Doshi
Here’s what this behavior looks like.
As far back as I can remember, I have always had a desire to fly. I grew up near an airport and spent many, many days watching planes takeoff and land. I found the experience of flight to be both mesmerizing and liberating. There was a certain sense of freedom I experienced as I peered into the sky watching those mechanical birds disappear into the distance.
Many years would pass, but the thought of flying never left my mind. After my freshman year in college, I had grown disinterested and dissatisfied with the entire college experience. And it was during that moment of discontentment that I decided to pursue my dreams of flying. l did my homework and found a flight school an hour and ten minutes away from campus. I visited the school the next day and knew immediately that this was where I belonged.
I was introduced to flight instructors, and completed the required paper work and began ground school and flight lessons a week later. The experience of being in an aircraft that beat the air into submission in order to gain lift is still the best experience of my life. I went on to obtain my helicopter pilot license—ranked number one in my class. After flying for a few years, I realized that I did not want to make flying a career; so, I moved on to the next idea, which brings me to my next point.
As you go through life, you might discover that you have many passions. And one of the keys to happiness is to do what makes you happy. Finding your passion is about living your life from the inside out. It is living your life from a place of contentment. So go ahead and flirt with great ideas. Flirt with adventure. Flirt with success. Focus on the passion that appeals to all your senses—and live in that moment until the next beautiful moment comes along.
“Every day can be an amazing day if you flirt with magical thoughts.” -Pragalbha Doshi