Is there an antidote for self-centrism? The simple answer is yes and no. Although humans are instinctively predisposed to work together for the common good even when there is a personal cost involved, we are equally self-centered, self-absorbed and selfish. We are driven to create realities and experiences that make us feel good. We exploit natural resources not only for our survival, but also for our pleasure.
We accumulate material possessions that only serve to reinforce the notion that happiness is found in high-status artifacts—the nice cars, the luxurious homes, the latest tech gadgets, the trendiest clothes and expensive jewelry. We base our self-worth on the people we are surrounded by. Nowadays, everyone either knows an influencer or is a self-proclaimed influencer. No one wants to be a regular Joe or Jane.
But there is hope. Although we have the propensity to be exploitive, egocentric, self-seeking and not show interest in the rest of the world, there is another part of us that desires to frame our existence based on creating experiences that provide lasting value to others.
When you deploy value, you are giving another person the opportunity to become the best version of him/herself.
I am learning every day that it is the little things that matter in life—an encouraging word, a gentle smile, a helping hand or an unexpected gift. That is the source of lasting happiness—putting the interests of others ahead of our own. This is what it means to deploy value. When you deploy value, you are not seeking anything in return. When you deploy value, you are giving another person the opportunity to become the best version of him/herself.
When we are living from a place that is filled with genuine regard for others—it is from that well-spring that we ourselves are able to fulfill the highest expression of self, which is the awakening of one’s will and essence to the power of LOVE.
Why not take time today to make someone smile. If you are a cook, why not surprise a friend with a nice dish. If you are an artist, why not paint a nice picture and give it to a stranger. If you are a fitness instructor, why not surprise someone with a free lesson. If you are a musician, why not compose a song and play it for an elderly person.
If you are a singer, why not visit a children’s hospital and bless them with melodies inspired by the Infinite Intelligence. If you are an influencer, why not use your influence to spread good cheer. If you are a poet, why not pen a personalized stanza or two for your writing community.
We are humans, which means that each of us has the capacity to deploy value to those in our concentric circles by the gift of our presence.
So, rather than feeding the ego and spending our time, energy and effort accumulating material things that will fade away, let us develop a mission-driven spirit that over-delivers on value and goodness. Let us live daily to bring joy to someone’s heart.