What do you do when life comes at you at one hundred miles per hour? What do you do when everything seems to be working against you? How should you react when you have done all of the “right” things, yet you are no closer to reaching your goals? How do you know when it is time to give up on something? And how do you determine when it is time to persevere?
While there are not any simple answers to those questions, if you are beating yourself up for not being where you imagined yourself to be, then you are setting yourself up for the big let down. In fact, if you have allowed regret and guilt to set up residence in your mind, then you have already lost. If you continue to rehearse the pains of the past, the discomfort of the present and the uncertainty of the future, then you have already failed.
The reality is, life does not give a shit about your feelings or whether you were able to accomplish your goals within a specific time frame. Life does not care that you had the best intentions and well laid-out plans. Life is not overly concerned that you have been grinding for years but never caught the BIG break. Life is not troubled that you have experienced one frustration after another and one setback after another.
Where your focus goes, your energy flows.
Life is not bothered by your failure. You see, failure is not something you can measure or define with the utmost precision. Yes, you can retrace a process or identify a bottleneck within a process, but failure is often convoluted and is exacerbated by unseen and unknown variables. Setbacks operate on similar principles.
The point here, is, where your focus goes, your energy flows. If you focus on the setbacks you encounter, then it is on the foundation of setbacks you will build your future. Likewise, if you erect a monument to failure, then it is at that altar you will worship. And the very thing you dread—setback and failure—will become your god.
Just in case you did not receive “the memo,” I would like to share a passage from it with you, which says…
Accept where you are in life. Yes, you have made some mistakes—maybe lots of them (as I have)—but camping in the place of the “mistakes” only keeps you there, and that is in the camp of mistakes. So, pack your bags, fold your tent, and get back on the trail of life and live the phenomenal life you were meant to live.
The next time you find things are not going your way and are tempted to think defeating thoughts—RISE UP—and remember, life is about the climb. Be patient with yourself and trust the process. Pause often to celebrate the small victories. And don’t get your self-esteem wrapped up in results. Success takes time. You will eventually become an overnight success after many years of dedicated work and effort.
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