How do you stop yourself from partaking in something that is right in front of you? I mean—look at her, with her shapely body, dark golden complexion and kissable lips—Lawdamercy! Look at him—tall, chiseled like a Greek god and smiling at you, as if to say, “Come with me, I’m all yours.”
Wow, don’t you just want to eat it—the delectable food, that is. If you could just taste, maybe touch and experience it—just have him…I mean, it, all to yourself—whatever it is.
Why is it so hard to resist the very things that might be bad for our mental, physical and spiritual health? You know Mr. Right is really Mr. Unemployed and Wanna Have a Good Time, but you desire to share a moment with him and deal with the guilt later. You are staring her down and know she is a gold-digger, but that’s not stopping you from taking the plunge.
What is it about self-control that makes it so difficult to depend on? Hmmm…
You know, self-control is not that difficult to practice when you really think about it. Self-control or discipline, boils down to giving yourself a command and following it. Discipline is trading the short-term pleasure for long-term happiness. Discipline is living like no one else today, so that you can live like no one else in the future.
The key to living a disciplined life is to love yourself enough to always choose the best option—the option that has lasting and positive value. The reason many of us struggle with discipline or self-control is because we try to control things that are beyond our ability to control.
For example, the biological imperative of every healthy and normally-functioning adult human is to have sex—to procreate. But sex, as wonderful as it is, when practiced outside of the right environmental, social and socioeconomic context, can lead to a host of issues to the point of compromising one’s long-term physical and emotional well-being.
So, the key is not to control the behavior or the self. The key is to love yourself enough—giving yourself the best opportunities to thrive.