Stop Doing What You Hate

What if you stopped doing the things you disliked or hated? 

I think about the people who go to work every day yet hate their jobs. They are faithful to a clock—working forty or more hours a week—giving their time and energy to a company that treats them like a witless drone and sees them as a disposable commodity. That is cruel and unusual punishment to one’s self. Think about it. This has to be another level of insanity—engaging in activities that bring you stress, anxiety, unfulfillment and unhappiness. 

Why are you at a job you hate? Why are you in a relationship that is headed off a cliff? Why are you pursuing small goals that will not add any value to your life? 

Let’s consider the reversal. What if you only did the things you loved? What would your life look like?

Could you imagine how fulfilling your life would be if you got up every day and all you did were the things you loved doing and nothing else? Imagine spending your waking hours only engaging in activities that brought you fulfillment. 

If you are interested in learning more about this topic, be sure to take a listen to the following podcast episode.



59 thoughts on “Stop Doing What You Hate

  1. GREAT motivational, positive message! ❤︎ I don’t think I do things I hate. If I find myself disliking something, I look for the positive in it (i.e. cleaning my puppers’ doo doo up~ I dislike it but it warms my heart seeing the earthly evidence of how healthy they are! heh!).

    This is a wonderful message!

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  2. Amen brother. I am doing that now. Leaving a job that I have become sour towards, moving to Florida to get away from the NJ snow, basically doing a life reset. My wife is not feeling it, and we are trying a trial separation but the effort on her side has not been present in a few years. It helps being reminded that I am on the right track. Life is too short to be luke warm…I need to be burning hot.

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    1. Matthew, it seem like we are on a similar journey. I left Alabama for Los Angeles a few months ago. This was a tough move for me because I left what I loved doing to pursue what I wanted to do. As you beautifully captured, “Life is too short to be luke warm…I need to be burning hot.”

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  3. It’s a continual process. I’ve left so many jobs that I hated, and tried to stick it out at the last one, only to be fired, because I lost my will to be there. It’s better to leave without knowing where your life will take you, than to stay and to jeapordize your health and well being.

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  4. I’m lucky my day job is something rewarding , my problem us all the red tape surrounding the job that I cut through a little every day. I make sure I do things for me like write paint podcast blog PlayStation and assist friends. Thank you for this reminder and I need to hear your podcast and see how you do yours

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  5. Good reminder! But when changing our circumstances becomes difficult, it’s good to remember that we can use our circumstances to change ourselves. There’s so much value in the character we can develop by doing tough things.

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  6. Thanks for this post. Something in me has been brewing for a while, the realization that I am burned out in my job. It pays the bills and I work with decent people, who are lenient toward working moms like me, but it doesn’t feel like it’s enough anymore. I feel like I should show my kids that work should be meaningful and contribute to the well being of the society, but I have no idea where to turn and what to do…

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      1. -attempts-
        It just… Spoke to me. It’s such a “simple” thing yet has such an effect on our lives, the fact that we religiously do what we hate and rarely attempt that which we love. I especially felt it on that ‘faithful to a clock’ aspect (not personally but Ik adults who do) and that relationship aspect (that’s for me now). This was a really good read! Lots of truth and power in just a few words. #KeepItUpSir

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      2. I get it! You know, no one really wakes up thinking…”Hmmm…I’m going to do what I hate for the rest of my life.” But many people find themselves at that very place later in life because they thought they had time…not taking life too seriously. Then they find themselves unable to break that cycle. So, while you’re young…try different things and once you lock into what you love, go ALL in.

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      3. Exactly! Thanks much, I’ve grown aware of the consequences of doing what I hate and the reality of what procrastination feels like as well and I’m working on changing my habits and breaking chains. I’ll try to stay on track and not fall into their traps. Thanks a million.

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  7. I read your article on “Risk Taking, ” and it screams me. Now that I’m over fifty and see missed opportunities, I am saying to myself, “I have more to lose if I don’t take risks.” Thoughtful writing.

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    1. Sometimes it is not until we are forced to look that clarity presents itself. It is simply amazing that the world now gets to see and experience your creativity on WP, YouTube, and any other platform you might be using. Keep up the excellent effort!

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  8. Thanks for checking out my blog, Mr.J. You’re spreading the good word. I’m 86 with a lifetime of experiences. Now I write books after years of acting in NY. Full life here although my first love died and now I met another good man to move on with. Best to you.

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  9. The intensity of “hating” something is deceptive when choosing instead to do something you “love.” Things that make you happy often don’t have that visceral, intense quality of “hating.” Happy stuff is subtle, sneaks up on you…grows over time.
    Also, it’s unreasonable to ask some things you love to do to support you financially. Let’s say you love to sit under a tree and write trashy romantic poetry, which you KNOW will never get you paid…except to maybe tell other poets that it won’t work. There’s the “good enough” job that is tolerable that can fund being able to spend your time that way.
    Hey, have you read author Barbara Sher, who started in career counseling and ended up becoming the “Granny” of Coaching? She’s right up your alley.
    Thanks for visiting my blog also. From what I see on your site here, you’ll enjoy more of what’s on mine too.
    I’ll be spending some time here too – read ya later!

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    1. You mentioned: “It’s unreasonable to ask some things you love to do to support you financially…” Doing the reversal of known assumptions can actually spawn innovations that can be financially rewarding (See Frans Johansson’s book, titled “The Medici Effect”). Take for example, the professional hugger, professional eater (a person paid to eat), professional sleeper (a person paid to sleep), restaurants that operate without serving food or beverages, a cosmetics company that will provide tech services and products (my startup), and the list goes on. It takes roughly the same amount of energy for a person to do what s/he loves as it does settling for a reality created by an employer. Everything is a matter of choice.

      I appreciate your contribution. 🙂


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