Paradigm Shift · Personal Development

Being Normal Really Sucks

Allow me to get right to my point. Being normal really sucks! And here is what I mean. If you are not happy with where you are in life at this moment, it is because you are NORMAL!

If your life sucks, it is because you are normal. If you are not giving 100% effort, it is because you are normal. If you are broke, then you are normal. If you are moving from one dysfunctional relationship to another, it is because you are normal. If you are “stuck” at a dead-end job, it is because you are normal.

If you wallow in negativity, pessimism, and self-pity, then it is because you are normal. If you erect monuments to your doubts and fears, it is because you are normal. If you spend time focusing on what is not working rather than focusing on solutions, it is because you are normal. If you are surviving and not thriving, then you are normal. 

Merriam-Webster defines Normal – as Conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern; not deviating from a norm, rule, or principle.

3735469c752c28602340833bee1a3a62What I have found most interesting, and to be honest, quite disturbing, is how much effort people put into being normal and living an average existence. Do you know that it takes the same amount of energy to be great as it does to be normal? Ponder on that thought.

You cannot expect to live a phenomenal existence if you spend your waking days being like everyone else. You will never become the best version of yourself if you are busy being good. The masses are living their lives moving backward because they are normal. Life’s best opportunities will not present themselves if you are occupied thinking normal thoughts and engaging in normal actions. Being normal gets you normal results and average success outcomes.

Ladies and gents, here’s the takeaway.

It takes the same amount of energy to be great as it does to be normal.

Life is too short to accept being average and ordinary. You have fought too many battles and have experienced too many hardships and setbacks to settle for a lifestyle beneath your privilege. You have too much potential within you not to be living on your mountaintop of success and abundance.

The fact is, it takes courage to be great. And being great is the only way for you not to be average. It also takes a certain level of mental toughness and fearlessness to ignore the noise and live as your authentic self. 

Don’t you believe you have greatness within you? Don’t you think you deserve to experience life’s best? Until you accept the magic connected to living your life as the best version of you, then normal and average will continue to define your daily existence. Only those willing to be amazing and live amazingly will reap the benefits and rewards that the Universe has designed and designated for them. 

Ultimately, the choice is yours. On the one hand, you can keep doing what you have been doing and keep getting the same average results. On the other hand, you can make a decision to accept your birthright once and for all and live as the phenomenal and amazing person you are. 

73 thoughts on “Being Normal Really Sucks

  1. Another great article, Josiah!
    Normality/ conforming is overrated.
    A great way to break away from this is to make some distance between yourself and the people who pressure you to conform. Then, it is important to do some heavy thinking and figure out what is important to you and what makes you feel good (preferably something that would have a positive influence in your life- i.e: jogging is more beneficial than smoking).

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  2. Hi there, I’ve just joined and already in progress stream of greatness. I suppose I should introduce myself first but I feel it would be better if others hopped on over to my workshop and took a look around. There you’ll get a birds eye view of the person I’m always working to “one up”! (:
    By the way, thanks for the follow Josiah. Now I’m off to discover the things that make you great—–

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  3. I just think that If everyone were to adapt this thought process of deviating from the soul crushing day to day normal living , or the average existence then I feel like by definition “great” would then be the ” norm ” or the normal way of living . The word “normal” is not an abstract notion that exists of and by itself. In fact it keeps changing so fast that perhaps the only “normal” thing for us now is the fact that normal is ever so changing. We, somewhat are desensitized to the idea that ‘normal’ is this warm cushy stable existence. Where we are safe and will remain as such forever. In fact, we probably detest this idea at our core. Or a lot of us do anyway. Even when at times we search for it.

    A lot of practices that were prohibited centuries ago were considered out of the norm / abnormal that we now don’t even think twice about doing and vice versa .
    I just feel like it’s a bit of an endless loop really and, you could just as well be asking for a “new normal” but calling it “greatness” or achieving your best potential . It is like defending a rebel and rightfully so , since the rebel feels justified in his/her rebellion. The principle.

    Humans will always look for the next thing because it is simply the journey that makes them feel alive and gets their blood pumping not the end where you’ve got it all. And you’ve made it. I feel like deep down we desperately keep looking for the next thing , because otherwise , the idea that we are “normal” goes against the inquisitive nature of humans, the constant need/ hatred for reassurance, and the inability to explain the unknown. It’s a constant struggle and that is the only thing that is always going to be “normal” . That is what I think.

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  4. Dr. Frederick Frankenstein: Ah! Very good. Would you mind telling me whose brain I DID put in?
    Igor: Then you won’t be angry?
    Dr. Frederick Frankenstein: I will NOT be angry.
    Igor: Abby someone.
    Dr. Frederick Frankenstein: [pause, then] Abby someone. Abby who?
    Igor: Abby… Normal.
    Dr. Frederick Frankenstein: [pause, then] Abby Normal?
    Igor: I’m almost sure that was the name.

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  5. Gosh this post is like speaking to me, I was feeling really down as things were pushed to me from irresponsible colleagues but at least I am normal 😉 from your blog its really true how we turn things around to create the positive vibes and turn things around. Who knows that the ‘shit’ we are in may turn out to be a victory, rite?

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    1. I would say that self-awareness of where you are as it relates to your personal and professional ambitions is the key. And awareness often leads to intelligent action in the direction of one’s goals. In short, the fact that you are mindful of your reality puts you on a winning trajectory.

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  6. Ahh, one of my favourite topics! “Normal.” I prefer to think of it as striving for and rewarding mediocrity 😉 You summed up perfectly and ever again so eloquently what I was struggling to put into words in my last post – my routine is starting to feel just ‘good enough’… too normal… I don’t want just good enough, I want to be in love with every aspect of my life, and to me ‘normal’ is just good enough and too constraining for my comfort.

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    1. Wow…quite the compelling response. 🙂 You’re right! Winners (like yourself) do not take days off to “reward mediocrity.” Btw, thanks for giving me the perfect topic to discuss on tomorrow’s show. 😉 ❤️

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      1. Talk like that and you’re quickly becoming one of my favourite people 😉 Just playing some catch up on my fave bloggers since I’ve been out of touch for a while here, and was thinking I haven’t seen many of your posts on my feed as of late, and then *boom*, there you were right at the top! Now I’ll definitely have to tune in tomorrow 🙂

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      2. Oh! I thought I was already in the “fav people” category 😄 I see that I’m going to have to take my game to the next level. I’ll send you a note when tomorrow’s podcast episode is uploaded. 😉

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      3. Thanks ever so much! Have to say I loved the direction you took with that. If I could jump on in your head and watch those creative wheels at work it would be a wonder indeed! I had a comment in my head that had jumped right out at me, but I’m distracted now and it has completely eluded me lol… but I really did enjoy the podcast. And thank you ever so much for the shout out… so thoughtful of you. If you don’t mind I would like to share the link over on my page on some upcoming post, contents of which have yet to be determined 😉

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      4. I have you to thank for the inspiration. So thank you and keep ’em coming. And feel free to share the link(s) any time. I also hope I can count on you to leave a review on iTunes (just had to sneak that in…lol). What I find so fascinating is how two people who’ve never met, can come together and draw inspiration from each other. Stay amazing and keep brightening your side of the world!

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      5. Well thank you! Your posts and podcasts definitely inspire me to do and be better, and my only complaint is that I have not had the time lately to sit and be able to listen through all of them 😀 I think I may be able to find my way over to iTunes at some point in the near future 😉
        Again, you definitely inspire me, so I’m glad you were able to take a little in turn. I’m so happy I stumbled onto wordpress when I did; I’ve ‘met’ some of the most amazing people through here and through my interactions or their words and voices I can almost imagine I’m sitting having a coffee chat with some, and value that as much as I would conversations with anyone in the ‘real’ world.
        I’ll keep trying 😉 Same to you!

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  7. Just watched The Hedgehog / L’Hérisson – based on the book by Muriel Barbary. The young heroine of the story described what you call ‘being normal’ as ‘living in a goldfish bowl’, or conforming. The author gives us some beautiful examples of how to live otherwise. Same message, great point!

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  8. Totally agree – why waste time on normal. Individuality is so much more … well everything really. Where do you sit on cool? I’ve only come to the conclusion bowing down before the temple of cool could be worshipping normal in another guise.

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    1. You mentioned: “Bowing down before the temple of cool could be worshipping normal in another guise.” Seems like we’re pointed in a similar direction. Could you break down that idea?


  9. For sure. I don’t like the concept of conforming to normal. As you say, normal tends to reduce people to low common denominators. I wouldn’t say the lowest common denominators because I don’t think it’s that dire. Normal is normal. I’m groping a bit here, but in my generation, aspiring to cool became just another norm. While cool is just as undefinable in absolute terms as ‘normal’, cool has become a defining straight jacket that is every bit as insidious because it still challenges individuality with a different type of ‘normal.Joining the tribe of cool is pretty much as difficult as joining the tribe of cool, just slightly different qualifying criteria.

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    1. Gotcha! Anything that gets a person more of the same should be avoided like the plague. I don’t see the attraction in being infatuated with average and normal. But many people seem to think that’s the best way to lead their lives. But we’re onto something greater!!

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  10. You are an excellent writer. It’s always a pleasure to find someone who can articulate their thoughts with such clarity and purpose. Thanks for stopping by my blog. 🙂

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  11. I am definitely over being normal and have chosen to ignore the nay-sayers that i have so long been listening to. I knew what I should have been doing quite awhile ago. (since 2012) But I have let my “normalness” get in the way. Your right, its just as much work being normal as it is being great. I choose to be great now. Good luck on your journey as well. 32 is going to be my jump off year. Thanks for the inspiration to keep going.

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    1. 2012 is also dear to my being as that was the year my worldview became more expansive and inclusive. It is good to know that you have been on your journey of greatness and success for some time now. Keep doing great things and stay amazing!

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