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Why Can’t I Just Be Human?

Attempting to fulfill the multitudinous social constructs that have been created to define what a human being is or should be, is a burden no person should have to carry. The only designation that should be ascribed to a human being is that individual’s binomial nomenclature—human being

The essence of our humanity is our humanity. The principal characteristic that makes me the person I am is that of a human being, meaning, my superior mental development, the power of articulate speech, and my upright stance.

Although we have come to learn that evolutionary biological variables define our development through the lifespan and social forces influence our thoughts, tendencies, desires, interests, and behaviors, the underlying construct that lies at the heart of those factors is our humanity.  

With the ideas above still in view, I reject any label that seeks to minimize and deprive me of my humanity.

As a human being, I hold some philosophical worldviews that others might not agree with. And there are those who espouse views that I do not consent to. But it is our differences that make our humanity so compelling.

The problem we run into as human beings is trying to get others to subscribe to our way of seeing the world without extending to others the right to present alternative positions that might challenge our firmly held beliefs.

For example, if a white person does not agree with or criticizes certain aspects of black culture, then that person risks being labeled a racist. If a black person speaks out against systemic racial injustice based on evidence and personal experience, then that individual might be viewed as a race-baiter or unpatriotic. 

Why does it have to be this way? Why does it seem like the only way to express the essence of our humanity is to take a hardline approach on one side of an idea? What benefits are there to be gained by using labels to pigeonhole others into a caricature of one’s own imagining? 

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Because someone chooses to live his or her life without the guiding influence of theism or other supernatural beliefs does not mean that person cannot break bread with religious adherents. Because a person celebrates heterosexual relationships, does not imply that person has disdain for LGBT people and their lifestyles. 

So what if a person chooses to see the good in Donald J. Trump? Let that person be. That’s his or her view. And if you think Trump is a narcissistic bigot, then that’s your opinion. But why do hate and indifference have to enter the picture?

How do divergent views make someone else less of a person? Are others not entitled to free speech and allowed to have dissenting views and opinions? 

Why can’t we challenge each other’s viewpoints without stripping away each other’s human dignity through ad hominem attacks and mischaracterizations? We should not have to agree with each other just to get along. 

Let me close with this. In the end, we all share the same fate. We will all return to the source from whence we came. So let’s use our short time on earth to enrich each other’s lives—especially those with whom we disagree. Let us love and live to be the caretakers of each other’s destinies because that is who we are by nature.

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8 thoughts on “Why Can’t I Just Be Human?

  1. I appreciate your post. I think on some level the world is moving more toward love. I wish those stories were the dominant portion of the news that’s published because they are out there.

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    1. Catherine, I appreciate your reflection. Yes, it is so easy to lose one’s senses and focus on the less-than-positive happenings around the world. Although negativity and pessimism seem to define the zeitgeist of the era, I believe love is present in the midst of all human experiences and will endure.

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  2. I completely agree with this post. I have my own views on certain subjects and so attempt to have dialogs with others viewpoints who differ from mine – I feel we can all learn from one another. More often than not though, the return action is that I was ‘an idiot the minute you opened your mouth’, ‘mind your own business in your own country’ (I’m Canadian), etc etc. I make check out the book you recommend. Thanks!

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    1. Thank you, Manuela. The beauty of the human experience lies in the diversity of thought and expression. We certainly can learn from and grow with each other even if we don’t agree on all matters. The book is a phenomenal read and is a sort of manifesto for a more humane world. I appreciate your support. 🙏🏽❤️

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  3. This simplest response/answer I can think of to ‘why’ is the lack of acceptance that exists. Folks are unwilling to accept those with a different view, faith, orientation, race, etc. I would wonder at what has caused this, but I think it is fear of not being accepted, themselves, by others. It’s self-reinforcing. The desire to be accepted by others drives a person to find others that are like-minded. Once that level of comfort is achieved, the fear of losing it dictates the willingness – or lack thereof – to accept others with differences. Celebrating humanity, as it were, seems to be the furthest thing from those seeking acceptance in society. People seem to forget that accepting something for what it is does not mean you have to like it. You can still choose to go your own direction, you just have to show a little respect to those that don’t go in that same direction. And where the paths cross, a little compromise might be in order…

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    1. Scott, you presented a compelling case. Here’s my takeaway from what you shared. The fear of the unknown and the unwillingness to embrace one’s own humanity are two powerful forces that could potentially keep one from experiencing the beauty of relationship. Thank you for adding value to the conversation.

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  4. I try to practice non- judgement which is not always an easy task. Until we’ve walked in another persons shoes we cannot really know them or their complexities. I’ve just started reading your book and shared it on my Facebook page ❤️

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    1. As humans, it is part of our experience to judge our environment in order to make sense of our reality. Even so, as you posited, nonjudgment is a skill that requires practice and patience, which ultimately leads to exploring alternatives and possibilities that lean on the side of connection rather than division. Your support of my book is genuinely appreciated. I trust you will find many meaningful takeaways. 🙏🏽❤️

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