Are there such things as unrealistic expectations? Sure, there are.
Expecting other people to acquiesce to one’s norms or values is certainly unrealistic. Hoping someone will love you simply because you love that person is an unrealistic expectation, and all too common.
Here’s another example. A person cannot become wealthy just by thinking it into existence. That is wishful thinking that borders on delusional. In order to command a great deal of money, resources, or assets, one has to be consistent in employing intelligent and actionable strategies over an extended period of time.
According to John A. Johnson, professor of psychology at Penn State, “The problem of expectation occurs when we expect something to happen without good reasons for that expectation. If I believe that my expectations alone will bring me what I want, I am using magical thinking and setting myself up for disappointment.”
In essence, expecting something to happen will not necessarily make it happen. The odds are stacked firmly against that sort of thinking. HOWEVER…there’s always a “however,” here is where the paradigm shift begins.
What are dreams if not a host of subconscious thought manifestations, i.e., unrealistic expectations?
Here is the question that will guide the rest of the discussion. Should we as bloggers and aspiring authors publish our written works knowing that the average book [will sell] less than 250 copies per year and less than 3,000 copies over its lifetime?
The fact is, the majority of writers will not get a positive return on their investment, meaning, the time and money getting a book to press plus book sales. And ninety-nine percent of published works will go unnoticed no matter how good their authors believe them to be.
When I released my book, Choose Love Not Hate, which in my mind should have been a hit (and still can be), I expected this work to do extremely well…like on a national scale. It has been one year since the book’s publication, and to date, I have sold less than five hundred copies. Now grant it, I did not have a marketing budget, which was intentional because I believed (and still do) that the book’s content would suffice as its own critical mass leading to thousands, if not millions of copies being sold.
Were my expectations unrealistic? Perhaps. Nonetheless, here is the takeaway.
Screw the norm! Set unrealistic expectations because that is what disrupters do. That’s what dreamers do!
So…“Dream impossible dreams. Think inconceivable thoughts. Pursue unattainable goals. Execute unimaginable ideas. Conquer insurmountable obstacles. Solve unworkable problems. Break unbreakable chains. Chart inaccessible paths. Seek impractical solutions. And expect improbable outcomes.”
Have you ever had an “unrealistic expectation” that turned into a stunning success? If so, I’d love to hear about it.
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