Life Choices

Push Your Own Damn Car

Have you ever met or spoken to someone who lived a life of endless excuses—you know, that person who explains away why s/he didn’t, couldn’t, shouldn’t, or just wouldn’t do something?

Not long ago, I had a conversation with someone who attempted to justify why s/he was experiencing limited success. Now, here was a person whose figurative car had broken down by the side of the road, and was wondering why no one was stopping to help him/her as s/he sat in the car. 

I mean, this individual would list every excuse as to why her/his unfavorable circumstances and missed opportunities were other people’s fault. This person swore by the gods that s/he was doing everything to get back on the highway while s/he sat in the vehicle the entire time.

What do you think is the problem here? A sense of entitlement? Fear of success? Fear of failure? Fear of responsibility?

Here are the takeaways:

  • People are more inclined to stop and help you push your car if they first see you pushing your car by yourself. 
  • The things in our lives we make a priority are the things we no longer have to make excuses for.
  • There will be times when life will deal us a less-than-optimal hand; even so, it is up to us to adjust and adapt to whatever the situation is.
  • Responsible people take ownership of every facet of their lives.
  • Life often presents to us a plethora of opportunities that come disguised as obstacles or problems.

Happy 4th Weekend!!


Featured image: FRANCE – MAY 24: A little boy pushing his father’s broken down 2 CV on the French Riviera on July 23, 1964. (Photo by Keystone-France/Gamma-Keystone via Getty Images)



6 thoughts on “Push Your Own Damn Car

  1. Agreed. No matter how bad things get, you still have to do the best you can and keep going. Or, you can rest and think until you have the strength to move again. You can’t always rely on people to get you out of a bad situation. Sometimes, you need to do things yourself.

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    1. I love the idea of resting until you have the strength to move on.

      Alex Soojung-Kim Pang, who wrote about rest in the literal sense, said: “Some of history’s most creative people, people whose achievements in art and science and literature are legendary, took rest very seriously. They found that in order to realize their ambitions, to do the kind of work they wanted to, they needed rest. The right kinds of rest would restore their energy while allowing their muse, that mysterious part of their minds that helps drive the creative process, to keep going.”

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  2. My Mum once said, many years ago, before feminism was a thing, that if she got a puncture in her car, she’s stop, lift the bonnet and peer in. ‘No man can resist stopping when they see a woman peering into an engine.’ She said.Then she asked for help to change the wheel.
    My Grandma said, ‘The Lord helps those who help themselves’.
    I don’t know how Mum would have gone on with her theory nowadays, but it worked for her, then.

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  3. I know scores of people who keep behaving as if someone else owed them a life. It is this entitlement mentality thing. The truth (or REALITY) is we each owe our own selves a life. As soon as a person gets this clear enough, things get easier and smoother. Thank you for the reminder.

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    1. Ralph, thanks for sharing! Josh Hatcher shared a similar sentiment, which says: “No one owes you anything. If we live our lives expecting people to hand us anything, we’ll not only alienate all of our friends, but we’ll create a situation where our value is puffed up and manufactured, and not based on our actual value. When something goes wrong, when crisis comes, we are left feeling bankrupt.”


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