Mindfulness · Paradigm Shift

Don’t Let The ‘How’ Kill Your Dreams

The Destroyer of Dreams

There are a plethora of reasons why people do not follow through on their dreams. For lots of folks, the fear of failure is the primary reason for not branching out into something new. For others, the fear of change or the lack of confidence are the hindrances.

This post will focus on the predominant mindset commonly associated with not committing to one’s dreams. A common trap people fall into when pursuing their dreams is to be overly concerned about the how.

International best selling American author Jack Canfield posited that “Most of us have never allowed ourselves to want what we truly want because we can’t see how it’s going to manifest.”

Think about it. How many times have your heard from people in your circle who wanted to pursue a new hobby or start a new enterprise but soon abandoned their plans because they did not know how the process was going to play out or how the result would come to fruition?

My Experience

In November 2018, I was hired as a project supervisor to oversee the electrical installation of a first-of-its-kind mega-conveyor system for the retail giant, Amazon. The project cost for this >1 million-square-foot e-commerce fulfillment center was ~$150 million.

The part of the project I would be responsible for was behind schedule by several weeks. Because I had never done a project of that size and scope and could not see the end result, the how, the temptation to quit before I had even begun was undoubtedly present.

Despite what seemed like insurmountable obstacles, my crew and I completed and turned over the project on time and within budget. Having this project on my resume has open doors I never imagined existed.

The Takeaway

The reality is, although some dreams/goals/plans do eventuate, there are many more that go awry. In the pursuit of a goal, it is easy to become overwhelmed by the results’ uncertainty. But to give up simply because you do not know how an outcome might materialize is to minimize your worth and close the door to other opportunities.

When it comes to your dreams, do not be consumed by how those dreams will come to pass. Your primary focus is to believe that if you do your best, patiently and diligently, the how will take care of itself.

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3 thoughts on “Don’t Let The ‘How’ Kill Your Dreams

  1. I couldn’t agree more. Having a vision, trust and belief in the bigger picture can propel us towards our dreams. When we believe we can without needing to know all the hows we can take those smaller steps that will ultimately lead us forward. Great post!

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    1. Miriam, I love the “smaller steps” idea. Oprah Winfrey once said: “The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but significance – and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning.” Thanks for adding value to the conversation.

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